Today was the first day I ever noticed the looks/stares. Mike and I decided to go and do a little shopping and have lunch. The Monster of course was with us, he wasn’t having the best day today either. When we were getting ready to leave the restaurant we were at, Mike went to the bathroom while I sat with the Monster. While we were sitting the Monster started to have a meltdown. A few tables down was a family. A husband and wife with a young child and I am assuming this child’s grandmother was with them. So when the meltdown started the Monster tried to push me away and I noticed the older lady was staring and she kept staring. The mother of the young child then turned around and stared at us. When Mike came back to the table I informed him we had some rude people staring, he then turned to look real quick. I have never noticed anyone stare and give us that look as if ‘wow control your kid.’ At that very moment a lady that worked at the restaurant came over and asked if everything was okay. We told her ‘yeah we are fine.’ She then offered to get our son a milkshake, something to drink, fries anything that he needed or wanted. We told her we were actually leaving soon and thanked her for offering. After she walked away, a lady had sat down in the booth next to ours. The Monster then tried to grab her purse through the bars. We apologized to her and she said, ‘I have a 5 year old, its okay, I understand.’ And her husband then sat down and smiled at us. They never once said anything or stared when the Monster started to have a meltdown again, but sure enough the family close by turned to look again. Mike took the Monster to the car while I gathered everything up, I thanked the couple next to us. And I also thanked the worker, I explained to the worker that our son is autistic and at the time she had came over we were getting stares. She said that she had an idea of him possibly being autistic, that is why she decided to come over and offer some help. I then thanked her again for her kindness.
Today was the first day I have ever noticed anyone stare at our son during a meltdown and yet I know it won’t be the last. I am so thankful for the couple that sat next to us and I am so thankful for the worker that seen what was going on and came over to offer help. I get so emotional when it comes to my son. I tried my best to not let the stares bother me, but they did. I was going to say something, but at that exact moment when I thought about it, it is when the lady that worked there came over and offered to help with anything we needed.
Since starting my blog I was warned about these ‘mean’ people, I was told you will have the ones the stare, the ones that say, “control your child.” And the ones that whisper. I haven’t felt that low in a long time. Mike and I drove 40 minutes to go out to eat and go to the mall because it is the closest one to us, so its not like I have seen these people around our town, they were strangers, but yet they made me feel so small. And thanks to the kind strangers, they were most likely the only reason I didn’t cry to husband right then and there. It didn’t even phase Mike, but here I was so hurt by how rude these people were. I know I shouldn’t let people bother me, but I can’t help it. The Monster also shoved me away and it made him look like he was being a brat and I was being a bad mom. That’s not the case though, he was having a meltdown, he was ready to go and he needed to go then. I just wish people would think before they assume the child is being a brat. Even if the child is verbal and seems ‘normal.’ They can still be autistic, just because they don’t ‘seem that way’ doesn’t mean they aren’t. Today was a bad day because of that family that decided to be rude and stare at us. I never thought a few rude and disrespectful stares would hurt my feelings this bad. Even though today wasn’t the best day, today was a day where I found out that this world does have very kind people who is willing to try and understand. So, here we were on the way home and I cried. I told Mike how it bothered me because the Monster can’t help it, it’s not his fault. I guess it is time to get some thick skin and pick myself up. This is the first of many rude people so I need to shake it off and get ready for the next.
“You are stronger than any situation. You are stronger than any doubt. You are stronger than everyone else thinks you are, stronger than you were yesterday.”