We have all seen the memes. Many of our Facebook friends post “share” them or “like” them and it shows up in your news feed. And every time it does I just want to ask, “what is wrong with you?”
Why would someone post this? Do they not believe that things like Autism, Sensory Processing Disorder, ADHD, etc. are real? Do people really think that none of those things exist? Maybe it is our imagination. Developmental disorders, behavioral issues, they aren’t real…why? because “back in my day it was bad parenting” and “we didn’t have these ‘illnesses’ like they do now.”
See “back in your day” autism was there. And it was blamed on the mom. Because the child’s mother didn’t love her child enough and that is why the child was autistic. Things started to change in the 1980’s and early 1990’s. I’m not going to explain how many children ended up in a “home” and how shock therapy was big in the 60’s and 70’s. This is just my way of saying, it was around, it has always been around. People just didn’t talk about it enough. Parents gave up on their children too easily. Doctors blamed mothers because they weren’t “doing enough” to prevent it, they didn’t love their child enough. Doctors often told parents to just give up now. And “back in your day” anyone who wasn’t “normal” was called the “r” word. Their disorder was never used.
Here is my letter to you..
If my son’s autism doesn’t exist..if his sensory processing disorder doesn’t exist..if his ADHD doesn’t exist…then neither does down syndrome. Tourette’s syndrome isn’t real either. Alzheimer’s is imaginary also
I mean if my son can’t control how his brain works and he is just being a brat then what really is the difference? Why do any of these things exist? Any kind of illness, disease, disorder, why have it? Because really “back in the day” it wasn’t there.
My son can’t control if and when he is going to have a meltdown (yes, a meltdown not a tantrum) because sometimes the freezers at the store is too loud for him. Because sometimes his clothes just don’t fit right that day. Because sometimes he really wants to tell me something and he can’t, so he gets upset and frustrated that he can’t express his needs and wants to me, like your kid can.
So please tell me again that about how it was “back in your day”.